Why Honoring What’s Already Working Builds Self-Trust in Midlife
If you’re a midlife woman feeling tired, overwhelmed, or just plain burned out, you’re not alone. Most of us reach this season of life feeling disconnected from ourselves … not because we’ve failed, but because we’ve spent years adapting, caregiving, and holding everything together.
The message we hear most often is: Try harder. Fix more. Do better.
But what if the most supportive thing you could do this week is nothing new at all?
The Week We Skip (But Need the Most)
When women decide to focus on self-care in midlife, it often turns into another to-do list:
• new routines
• better habits
• more discipline
This approach assumes something is broken. Honestly, a lot of times it just adds to the overwhelm.
Week 1 of One Choice at a Time begins somewhere else entirely. This week isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about noticing what’s already working and choosing it on purpose.
Honoring What’s Already Supporting You
Honoring what’s working doesn’t mean ignoring stress or pretending life is easy. It means recognizing the small, steady choices that already help regulate your nervous system and help you cope.
This might look like:
• a quiet morning ritual that grounds you
• one friend you always reach out to
• a walk, a shower, a pause that resets your body
• a boundary you’ve learned to hold
These choices matter because they already support your emotional well-being.
You didn’t arrive at them by accident.
They’re evidence of self-trust you may have forgotten you have.
Why This Practice Builds Self-Trust
Many midlife women struggle with self-doubt. It’s not because they lack wisdom, but because they’ve learned to override themselves for years. Putting everyone else’s needs ahead of yours becomes part of your identity. After a while, putting your own needs first feels selfish.
When you slow down and name what’s working:
• shame softens
• defensiveness lowers
• your nervous system settles
This practice proves something important:
You already know how to support yourself.
And that realization becomes the foundation for everything that comes next.
A Simple Week 1 Reflection
Ask yourself:
The part of my life that is working right now and that I need to keep doing is:
(just one thing)
This matters because it helps me feel more:
☐ Steady ☐ Grounded ☐ Supported ☐ Like myself ☐ Able to cope
No fixing.
No optimizing.
Just choosing yourself on purpose.
Why This Comes First
This is why Week 1 is the foundation of One Choice at a Time:
• it establishes self-trust before self-improvement
• it lowers shame and pressure
• it proves you already have supportive rhythms
• it sets a repeatable pattern for all six weeks
From here, each week becomes a variation on the same practice, not something new to master.
One Choice at a Time
One Choice at a Time: A 6-Week Practice of Showing Up for Yourself is for women who cringe at the thought of adding one more thing to their already overwhelming list of responsibilities. It’s for the women who are tired of starting over and ready to come home to themselves.
Five minutes a day.
One supportive choice at a time.
A rhythm you already know because you’re already living it.
COMING SOON
We are welcoming all burned out, overwhelmed, women who are physically, mentally, and/or emotionally exhausted to join us for this gentle 6 week practice designed to calm your mind and your nervous system while regaining some control in your life.
If this is you, please join us. We do not have an official launch date yet, but we encourage you to enroll now. Here’s how to join:
Click this link and join The Grown Girls Table (our free community on Skool)
https://www.skool.com/the-grown-girls-table-7211/about?ref=0b36f11292f743a09157233174b142ab
Locate the Once Choice at a Time pinned post and comment “I choose me”
Don’t forget to download the free Skool app and check out the conversations in the community. You will be notified as soon as we have an official launch date.
Until then… be well and make space for you 💖